How many times have you said to yourself that you’d be happy when this happens or when something else happens? How many times have you been influenced by someone else and their mood or actions, and it has impacted on what you have been able to do and how you have felt? In reality, these are all pretty common, and naturally, we are going to react to what people around us do, for good or for bad. But when we start to take control, we can find that we can, in fact, be happy, regardless of what the people around us are doing or feeling. When we are present and are more in control of what we are doing, it will make a big difference.
Being happy isn’t just about being a nicer person to be around. It can have an impact on various aspects of your life. In fact, there are people out there petitioning to end daylight saving time, as they feel, through looking at the history of daylight saving time, we can all feel happier and make our days a little brighter when we have one standard time all year round. And along those lines, you can get your career goals achieved when you’re happier, and in an ironic way, when you’re being good to yourself, it will bring you closer to achieving those the ambitions that you have, no matter how lofty or far off they may seem. Happiness can help to build confidence too, so it really is a no-brainer that is should be something that you are focusing on at the moment. Plus, not only is being kind and good to yourself good for your career, it can be such a good thing for your relationships too, she adds. When you have love for yourself, it makes it much easier to love others.
So with all of this in mind, here are some of the small and simple things that you can do each day to make your day go better, to build self-love, and to be a happier person.
Do one nice thing for yourself each day
No matter how big or how small, there are things that we can do each day to help our happiness. But it is important to make sure that you make it a habit and it does become a daily thing. Have a look at your day so far today; what have you done that it just for you or has helped to boost your happiness? We can probably count the many things that we have done that don’t help our happiness (hello endless social media scrolling). But what have we done that has helped to build happiness? Doing this each day can motivate you, and you’ll be more easily able to spot the positive and negative in your life.
Being able to be a good listener is a really important skill that some people have to really work hard on. Being a good listener to other is one thing, but how often do we listen to ourselves? How do you talk to yourself or what kind of internal voice do you have? Is it one that scolds and discourages, or one that praises and encourages? We can be our own worst enemy, so loving ourselves and being happier can start with how we talk to ourselves.
Along similar lines, being able to forgive yourself is something that is really important. Being able to forgive people around you is something that can be tough, but most of us are able to do it. But even people that can forgive others often find it hard to forgive themselves. It can be such a hard thing to do, because we can get so annoyed with ourselves, or as has been mentioned, we can talk to ourselves in a negative way. So practice forgiving yourself and then moving on from things, it will make your outlook much brighter.
Cut out toxic people in life and at work
This is something that can sound all well and good until it comes down to actually doing it. On paper, cutting out the toxic people in your life sounds like such a good thing and how it will help you to be more positive and move on. But the reality of it is really difficult, as there are people in your life that you won’t be able to easily avoid (such as toxic partners or clients). There isn’t any reason why you need to put up with this kind of behavior from others, so if you can’t cut out completely, at least stand your ground and let them know how you feel.
Mindfulness is a bit of a buzzword of late, but the reality is that it can be a really wonderful thing. But do we know what it really means? Being mindful means being more present and in the moment, and it can be something that can really help mental health, stress, and anxiety levels, as well as helping you to be calmer and happier. For example, when you have your breakfast, do you rush it all and eat while you are watching the news or scrolling on social media? Or do you take your time to do one thing at a time? When you make time to just eat breakfast, it gives you time to practice mindful eating, listening to your body, and also planning the day ahead, without it being a really manic and stressful situation.
Come rain or shine, it is important to get yourself outdoors. Being outdoors can mean that you are being physically active, as well as having physical space away from some of the negative influences in your life. It can be good for your health too, to get some fresh air and some much-needed vitamins in your life. When we lead busy lives it can be hard to get out and about as much as we should, with some of us only getting outside for the essential things, not just to ‘be.’ So that can be an easy way to get more positivity into your life.